Everyone is judgmental, everyone! Of course there
are different levels of judgment, but no one can truthfully say they have lived
a life never judging others.
A favorite saying of mine is, don’t judge others
because they sin differently. I still believe that with all my heart, but I am
not perfect, I have judged. It makes me human.
But the thing I don’t get about judgment is how the
biggest judgers think they aren’t. When you complain about someone judging you,
they are the first to show outrage. Seriously? You totally just judged me in
the way you asked that question. So what
would Laura Bush do?
I think Laura Bush would just let it go. What’s the
point of getting defensive when someone judges you, especially someone that doesn’t
even know you? That is much easier said than done. I have mastered the art of
just accepting judgment. I do make it easy for others. “OH MY GOD, you aren’t
trying to find a husband?” “Your life is incomplete without children.” “You are
a waitress?” Oh yes, I sure make it easy.
I don’t always succeed, but it is really hard to get
me to engage. I could easily answer back with something like “well, I am in graduate
school,” but I don’t. Their mind has been made up. Let them think what they
want, they are leaving someone else alone. Laura Bush would walk away, and so
will I.
But what I think is the hardest is enduring judgment
from those close to you, those that claim they don’t judge you. Those that
justify their judgment as “looking out for you.” True, some questions are asked
out of just interest and kindness, but those aren’t the questions I am referring
to here. How would Laura Bush handle one more question about her love life if
she was me? One more question about finding a “real” job. One more question about
getting a new car. Just one more judgment-laced
question?
Well first, because it is Laura Bush, class is most
important. One classy thing is I don’t particularly like talking about myself.
Those close to me know I don’t share much. I can be dating someone for months,
and they have no idea. This opens up a whole assuming the worse about me, but
that is a topic for another day. Because I prefer to not share much, that ensures
class. I won’t say anything out of line or spill information about others.
People can continue to think how they want, that is their right.
Being Laura Bush I will just have to remind myself,
no one is perfect. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Who am I to say
they are wrong. Maybe I am all these things. Maybe their judgment is just. The
key is to walk away and remain kind.
Today’s post is all over the place, but so is
judgment. There is no rhythm or reason to it, much like me. But as I prepare
for my day and face judgment, I will remember to ask, what would Laura Bush do?
Author’s Note: Damn this song is catchy. Since I
have mentioned Miss Swift a few times in previous posts, figured it was only
time to reference her music. Unfortunately, this is really the only song I
know. It is still perfect for this entry.
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