Judgment is a tricky thing. I don’t mean the type of
judgment that comes from court, as in the “final judgment.” I mean when others
judge each other based on silly little things. We can all say that we are not
judgmental, but everyone is in at least one way or another. I try to never
judge anyone for anything or because they sin differently than me, but I do
sometimes find myself judging others after they have judged me. Not so much on
bad things they do, but on why they would judge someone else.
Sadly, the world of social media has made it quite
easy to judge others based on what they post. Who hasn’t said “did you see what
so and so was wearing?” or “I can’t believe they would post that.” It is true
that those who post how wonderful they are or something in their life is, never
really are that great, but that doesn’t stop people from saying something.
Feeding into someone’s desire for attention is all too easy in today’s world. This
judgment will always be there as long as there are people that overshare in the
world and the fad of selfies. But this isn’t the judgment I am getting at with
this post.
The judgment I am going to address is when someone
close to you devalues your choices and tries to make you feel small. This is
where I really think I channel Laura Bush as I am always supportive of people’s
choices. Of course I don’t always agree with everything someone does, as no one
would agree with me on everything I have done. But never will I judge someone.
I will speak up if something is dangerous to them, but that should be a given.
Unfortunately the past couple of months I have been
judged by many around me for choices I have made. I don’t fit the stereotypical
girl that believes you must be married to be happy, or rich to be happy. I am
happy despite those two things. I believe in relationships, but it is not my
end goal. The people I have chosen to be in my life in this capacity are aware
of that fact and I am thankful for them. Money has never been a driving force
for me, or else journalism would not have been my degree. I made one decision
in my life based on money and it turned out to be the wrong choice. I don’t
begrudge anyone success in monetary gains, just don’t judge me because I don’t
strive for that.
So what to do when someone judges you about your
career or personal life? What if that person is “close” to you? Well when this
happens it is a perfect moment to ask, what would Laura Bush do? Well she would
be classy. She would not let someone else’s opinion change her path. She would listen
to what they have to say, thank them, and then continue on her way. This is
what I am doing. I am not letting it get to me or cause a smart comment from
me. No more getting defensive. Just letting what they say roll off my back and
move on. If I can remain classy when faced with judgment, then I know I have
channeled Laura Bush and channeled her well.
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