Today while I was out for breakfast I had a stranger
approach me and he gave me a lovely compliment. There was no hidden agenda
behind his words; he was simply being nice. I don’t know how our paths crossed,
how he knew I needed to hear it, or why he picked me, but I was thankful. I
wasn’t just thankful for his words, I was thankful to be reminded that there
are nice people in the world.
It was also a reminder to continue to be me. I am
sure some reading this are thinking I am either self-righteous or self-serving,
and that no one can always be as kind as I try to be. And you know what? No one
can. We all fail sometimes. We all let others get the best of us. None of us
are perfect.
But regardless of all this, I don’t believe I am any
of the things mentioned earlier. I am just me. And here are a few things that I
hope to never change about me. A few things that I hope will continue to
inspire my blog and my readers.
I don’t believe in defending myself against anything
that isn’t true. How can you defend something that wasn’t true in the first
place? All this does is fuel a fire that doesn’t deserve to burn. All this does
is make everyone look foolish.
I don’t believe in ever running my mouth about
others, even those that choose to speak unkind of me or others. I left high
school a long time ago. What’s the point of this? People expecting to tell me
something others have said to get me to engage are often disappointed. I just
listen and leave it at that. I won’t give you anything to take back and say I
said. Silence can’t be misquoted. I don’t
think this makes me self-righteous or too good to be true, I think this makes
me a good person. This makes me a trying person. I try every day to hold my
tongue. Sometimes it is tough, but I will always try.
Don’t get me wrong, I do say unkind things. It is
only human. But I try to not say them from a place of hurt or anger. And I am incredibly
selective as to who I say these things to (where my girls at?). It takes me a
very long time to open up to anyone about anything. And those that I do go to I
hope know this. The few I have sought guidance from lately haven’t done
anything to lose my trust and I hope they never will.
Along the same lines, I believe in letting others
make their own judgments of others. I am not going to say anything to sway
their view one way or another. When someone asks me what happened in any
situation I just respectfully decline to give detail. If others involved are
not there to defend themselves, I don’t want to be the reason they are viewed
negatively. If you are to be viewed in a negative light, I want you to do that
all on your own.
Unfortunately, this doesn’t always apply to friends.
My friends hear my side of the story, but I still try to stop myself from
saying anything too prejudicial in either direction. But when it comes to best
friends, all bets are off.
One final note, the little things in life make me
incredibly happy. This may be why I miss out on the “big” things, but such is
life. I get happy when I get a new Barbie. I get happy when the sun is out. I
get happy when I have a good run. I get happy when I get concert tickets. I get
happy when a friend has good news. I get happy when an episode of Law &
Order I haven’t seen in years is on. I get happy when a movie I want to see is
released. I love the little things. I get so excited, I can’t help it. It has
annoyed people in my past, but I guess some of us have to be annoying.
And I get happy about Laura Bush. I get happy when
someone references her to me. I get happy when someone in my life looks at me
and says, “what would Laura Bush do?”
Author’s note: This song came on earlier and I was
just really feeling it. I love this band.